Yesterday evening I learned with much sadness that Chester Bennington the lead singer of Linkin Park due to an apparent suicide. Much like Chris Cornell who died at the age of 52 about two months ago, it seems that Chester was also battling the onslaught of depression. My sympathies and heartfelt condolences go out to his wife and kids. But I feel something really needs to be said, which seems to be missing from this entire ongoing discussion on social media each time someone high profile dies from suicide. And I will most likely get a lot of hate for this, but we always focus on the victims of suicide. But what about the people left behind? The family, friends, and children? The person who committed suicide already solved his apparent problem. And yes it does sound bad saying it like that.
But that is why people kill themselves because they feel they have insurmountable problems that cannot be solved. While it “solves” their immediate problem it creates a whole set of different ones for those left behind. Being a logical person and viewing everything from a strictly logical point of view, suicide fits the definition of “selfish” since it “benefits” no one but the individual in question. No man is an island. The act of killing yourself is like throwing a rock into a pond, the effects of the rock hitting the water can be felt throughout the entire pond. Having said that it does not mean I think someone who commits suicide is a bad person, or anyone to be thought negatively of. The truth about suicide is that the pain does not end when you die, you just hand it over to those you leave behind.
[Editorial Note:] I acknowledge that those saying that calling suicide selfish is counter productive and harmful, while that may be, that isn’t a reason why it isn’t selfish because it is.